Being married is not about just eating together or Sleeping Togerther !

 

Being married is not about just eating together, sleeping and waking side by side, strolling to the beach or river together, doing the lovey-dovey, pillow fights or doing chores together. These are only the extra-curricular activities; the main thing that needs to be done together is Ibadah, and this is where many couples fall short today.

We were created for the worship of Allah SWT and couples can very much help each other achieve this. Below are some few ways couples can achieve this.

Husband: My dear, its Jumu‘ah, let's recite Suratul Kahf together.

Wife: Hey dear, wake up and let's pray, its time for Tahajud, our LORD is in the first heaven calling on to us.

Husband: Hey baby, even if you are off-salat, have you done your evening adhkaar? Let's do it together.

Wife: Ya sheikh, now that we have observed Isha, its time for our daily family halqah, won't you give us a Naseeha or teach us some fiqh?

Husband: My Queen, let's quickly recite Surah Mulk before sleeping so that it will save us from the punishment of the grave.

Wife: My King, tomorrow is Monday, what would you like me to prepare so we can fast tomorrow to please our Lord.

Allah cautions us in the Qur’an; “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.” (66:6)

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon  Him) praised the man who gets up at night to pray, and wakes his wife, and when she refuses to get up, he sprinkles water on her face; and he praised the woman who gets up at night to pray, and wakes her husband, and when he refuses to get up, she sprinkles water on his face. (Reported by Imaam Ahmad in al-Musnad, 2/250; Saheeh al-Jaami 3494).

How beautiful is this Hadith! This is how couples should help in fulfilling 50% of each other's deen and protect each other from the Hell fire. Therefore marry a person who will help you in the worldly affairs as well as the matters of your Hereafter.

Many people say: “I want a spouse who will hold my hands to Jannah.”

I hate to break it to you but the bridge of Siraat is not an easy bridge that requires just a hand to help you cross it, everyone that day is for himself, so Jannah is not earned by only dua, we need to work for it.

May Allah SWT grant us spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes and unite us again in Jannah as well. Ameen