Qualities a Muslim husband should possess

1. Make her feel secure, don’t threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Salaams.

3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.

4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.

5. Be generous with her.

6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.

7. Avoid anger, be in wudhu at all times.

8. Look good and smell great for your wife.

9. Don’t be rigid or hard-heart-ed.

10. Be a good listener.

11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.

12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear.

13. A pleasant surprise.

14. Preserve and guard the tongue.

15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.

16. Give sincere compliments.

17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.

18. Speak of the topic of her interest.

19. Praise her to her relatives.

20. Give each other gifts.

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.

22. Have a good opinion of each other.

23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick.

24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.

25. Expect and respect her jealously.

26. Be humble.

27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.

28. Help at home, with housework.

29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her.

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.

31. Remember your wife in Du’a.

32. Leave the past for Allah, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.

33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.

34. Take Shaytan as your enemy, not your wife.

35. Put food in your wife’s mouth.

36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect.

37. Show her your smile.

38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.

39. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.

40. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.

41. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halal boundaries.

42. Help her take care of the children.

43. Sit down and eat meals together.

44. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.

45. Don’t leave home in anger.

46. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.

47. Encourage each other in worship.

48. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.

49. Keep to the Sunnah of foreplay, don’t jump on her like an animal.

50. Show care for her health and well-being.

51. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.

52. Share your happiness and sadness with her.

53. Have mercy for her weaknesses.

54. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
The above list is a tall order, but as many upright people have said, "Nothing is difficult when pursued for Allah, and nothing is easy when pursued for the ego." We ask Allah, Most High, for success and virtue.


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